Liam’s chickens come home to roost.

While Liam continues to drown in self-pity, I can only watch … emotionless … How utterly predictable that his demeanour should switch from that of being distinctively threatening, to seemingly remorseful and humble, and all in the space of only a few days …

No longer the oh so charming sweet man we once knew, who used his attractive and engaging personality to impress, and manipulate vulnerable women … A man who continually lied that he was being verbally and physically abused by his wife for no other reason than to gain sympathy. To deceive, influence and control compassionate women into loving him with an intention only to satisfy his sick and twisted fantasies.

Reading his words, which as yet, make no mention of me, I can’t help but suppress a slight giggle … Liam’s chickens have finally come home to roost …

He would be mortified that his public image has been shattered, that all his sycophants are no longer in tow, and no one has the slightest interest in anything he has to say … But on the bright side, no doubt now, he has all the “space” he could wish for …

“What I can’t understand is how cruel you could be,” he whines, and this coming from a man who can be credited with completely destroying one marriage and trying his uttmost to destroy another … “Why should my family and friends be hurt because I was the cause of hurt to you?” he adds, and I just sigh …was it not him that brought his personal life into our conversations?

When will he realise its his actions that have caused so much devastation? Not only to his family and friends but also to ours, who have had to pick up the pieces in the aftermath of his cruel games.

I would perhaps have been slightly more sympathetic had it not been for the venomous emails that have been forwarded to me. Only two weeks ago he menacingly threatened to write a book, with an innuendo that the women will be included … “The work of reality is well underway with characters you might well recognise” he says, what an absolutely pathetic creature he is, I think, as I read on … “Life goes on and I’ll go on to do the things I said I’d do”, he adds as if he thinks anyone would care …

“I did momentarily go back on Twitter and have now closed the account again.” LIES.

My husband, who understandably is still unable to forgive me, would never, discuss with anyone, things that should remain between a husband and wife. Liam however, not only betrayed us, but also those closest to him. He only has himself to blame …

Pathological Liar.

After Liam’s abrupt departure my my life last summer, my first thought was that I had inadvertently said something that riled him … Every day it seemed, there was a disagreement … a misunderstanding. I was treated to the silent treatment much more frequently, which only served to reinforce my firm belief that he was talking to another woman …

Approximately two weeks before the final email, I received a very disturbing message from him. He was very ill, he said, as someone was out to “destroy” him. “I’m not a bad person”, he said, ( a line I’d heard so many times before), more to convince himself, I thought, than me …

He wrote many things he hoped would pull at my heartstrings but by that time my memories of being happy with him were fading fast … No longer able to manipulate or control me, still, he kept me on the back burner, remembering my devotion to him and believing I could still in some way be useful to him …

The email, which not only smacked of self-pity, included several very derogatory comments about the woman concerned, in what I can only think was an attempt to make me believe she was not credible …

It seemed I had been there before … and I was such an avid listener … The tales of his wife abusing him verbally and physically immediately sprung to mind … and my earlier thoughts he was suffering from a personality disorder, had never really gone away …

So my first reaction was not to reply to him, but to find out just what the Hell was going on … I went straight to Twitter, but he had already deleted, however I didn’t have to wait long for him to return … There seems to be a pattern with him, he deletes, he reactivates, he creates fake accounts so he can monitor what is said about him …

During one of these reactivation periods I pinpointed the lady I believed he was referring to. I read her tweets and saw nothing that made me think she would have any reason to lie about him. I have since been proved right.

I smile at my niavety back then, when I believed there was only one other woman involved … On October 30th 2013 Liam admitted there were two … He said, ” There were only two women, NOT SEVEN” and on March 19th 2014 he seems to have recalled another … so now it appears he lied … But we all know there were many many more …

His constant misuse of the word destroy continues to anger me … has he any concept of the damage HE has done? To so many? I would suggest his demons will only leave him when HE accepts responsibility for HIS actions

Unrepentant.

Reading through an email forwarded to me by one of Liam’s ladies, ( who he disparagingly refers to as “wimmin”) for a split second I almost felt sorry for him … But then I remember that time, almost a year ago now, when he destroyed, ( he loves that word ) my marriage beyond repair … To this day he is blissfully unaware of how my life has changed as a result of knowing him …

And now I am reading of another woman’s heartache … “Should I reply to him?” she asks me, and I want to scream … no, he didn’t love you … but she says ” You don’t understand … ” and I think Yes I do …I do so well…

Liam’s words, ( why am I not surprised? ) show not a shred of remorse or even regret at the hurt and devastation he has caused not only to the women concerned, but also the immediate families of those who he played his cruel games with. He abused his position of trust by hitting on vulnerable and compassionate women who contacted him with no other agenda than to empathise, with the suffering he had endured as a child.

And he dares to talk of trust. Trust to Liam means keeping quiet, keeping his secrets. Many women duped by him would feel in some way foolish, to have been taken in so completely, to have been charmed so easily …

This man is a first class manipulator. For myself it was the power of his words that drew me to him like an emotional magnet. He triggered memories, situations and concepts, his words were so reassuring, calm even … and little by little I became completely submissive …

For a long time Liam has insisted there were only two women he has been inappropriate with but in the last few weeks it seems, he has changed that to three, does he honestly believe the others have simply vanished? There are many women who have contacted not only myself, but others affected by him, and it is clear his words were not limited to ourselves …

There is something distinctively ironic about being unceremoniously dumped by a person you never wanted romantically in the first place. I would imagine a typical reaction would be to lock the whole unfortunate episode in the back of ones mind and obviously a lot did … until they realised they were not the only ones …

Consequences.

 

While I am not without sympathy, or should I say empathy, for Liam’s wife family and friends, I can’t help but think its best they know how it really was …

For myself it was a brief email expressing empathy after reading his book ( I’ve since heard other women also made contact this way) and in no time at all he was clinging to me like a leech … He emailed and DM’d me constantly … I was happy, flattered even he wanted me to be his friend but all too soon it seemed, he wanted to take things to another level …

I’m not even sure myself how the conversations progressed from seemingly mutual respect to him flirting outrageously with me in a way best described as persistant. Every day it seemed he upped the stakes, in the space of two weeks I had gone from being his best friend and only confidante to the woman he loved, and by week three he spoke of making me pregnant …

Being in a loveless but comfortable marriage, I can only think subconsciously I yearned for a knight in shining armour to whisk me away … to make me feel alive again … and how he romanced me with poetry love songs and endless promises …

I can only surmise Liam feels it acceptable to hit on vulnerable women and use them as sexual playthings after professing his undying love for them. For a man who claims to not want pity I would have to question his motives in telling ALL the women he entered into online relationships with, he was frequently abused, both verbally and psysically by his wife on a regular basis.

And now he whines about the people who have departed from his life, as though he is the victim of some malicious witch-hunt, as though various women would for some obscure reason pick him randomly to berate … I mean please …

I wonder, does he really think he still has the ability to make any of us feel sympathy for him? I’ve seen much of what he has written over the last few months and never, has he enquired as to the welfare of the women he so heartlessly used and made false promises to … As ever he continues to play the victim and says he’s not sorry for himself …

Never one to be afraid to use the emotional blackmail card, not only does he accuse the women of giving HIM stress, he lists medical facts that worsen his illness … I would politely suggest he abandons his plans to return to Twitter as like a red rag to a bull, the women would feel it their duty to warn other women in danger of falling for Liam’s charms the extent of his grooming and manipulation skills …

Having a Father who was thoroughly decent hard-working and respectable I’ve no concept of how Liam’s children would react to the revelations of their Father’s inappropriate behaviour with women online. I feel shock would be a somewhat understatement, and to betray their Mother in such a public way must at the very least be unforgivable.

However, they were not the only ones to suffer the repercussions of Liam’s actions …

No Remorse.

I’d dared to hope briefly, that Liam had learned from his mistakes, and was,at the very least, laying low … But like a Jack In The Box he continues to spring back … as startling and menacing as ever …
 
Seemingly undaunted by the revelations of his inappropriate behaviour by women unfortunate, or should I say vulnerable enough to be taken in by his lies, he continues to insist that HE is the victim … As though it was HE who was persued relentlessly, and HE who was subjected to unrequited declarations of love …
 
This man is a con artist, one who will lure a woman with endless compliments and constant flattery. His conversation at first, somewhat light and intriguing is merely a taster. His intention is to ensnare, entrap groom and manipulative the object of his desire into having online sex with him.
 
All too soon it starts becoming alarmingly personal … you are amazing … beautiful … I think of you constantly … I want to be with you … I hope you thought of me first thing, I did of you … and finally … would it be okay to exchange emails … ?
 
At some point you are overwhelmed by the feelings you’ve not had for so long, he makes you feel alive, young and desirable … you find yourself longing for his emails, his texts, you daydream you are in a relationship with him …
 
And now you are emailing eachother daily … you find yourself typing your whole life to him and he has all the time in the world for you and you stop typing to thank him for listening, he encourages you to keep typing, assures you you wants you to continue … I have my arm around you, he says and on you go telling him things that you trust him with …
 
And then the chat programs … “Do you ever use any of the chat programs, like Skype Yahoo or MSN? Just curious. It would be wonderful to have the privacy and dare I say the intimacy of being able to chat this way.” And when you say no he oh so kindly offers to help you install them …
 
Liam is a sexual predator, his only agenda on social networking sites is to gain sympathy, (he even believes his own lies) and lure compassionate women to love him by playing cruel games. His ultimate goal is that the women not only send naked images of themselves to him … but that they perform on Skype for his pleasure … a sick and twisted individual …

 

The Persuasion.

Originally posted on The Narcissist And His Trail of Destruction.:

” I would like to see anyone, prophet, king or God, convince a thousand cats to do the same thing at the same time”  ~  Neil Gaiman.

Jo: Let me explain about us ( if there is still an us ) whatever I have shared with you has been because of our damaged childhoods. You felt my pain I felt yours, you held my hand and I trusted you, I typed my life to you …

Perhaps now you feel it unnecessary to keep going with the things that drew me to you, that you no longer feel the need to keep saying them to me, but for myself I’m not ready to let go. It makes me sad, it empowered me, as though I was strong again, because you loved me …

You must understand when a woman feels loved caution is thrown to the wind and anything is…

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Crossing the line.

Liam is without doubt the most evil and dangerous man I have ever encountered. An aging and disabled author ( his book is over 20 years old) I believe he joined Twitter with the sole intention of interacting with vulnerable women with a view to manipulate them into having online sex with him.
 
I can state categorically this man was in at least three online relationships simultaneously. This would account for his frequent disappearances from conversations, supposedly to go to the bathroom or take meds … A manipulative, controlling and selfish man Liam was prone to hanging up or signing off when things didn’t go his way and regularly treating the unfortunate woman to the silent treatment for not doing what HE instructed. His hopes clearly were that she would be inconsolable and relent … however this didn’t always happen …
 

I had thought nothing Liam had said or did could further shock me, but even I was unprepared to learn he had the audacity to email a victim’s husband to complain about her … The exchange of emails are as follows and names have been changed …

 
Keith,
I apologise for writing to you at this time of night, I just happen to have your email which you sent me when your wife, Barbara was in trouble.
Liam.
 
Keith: I’m not sure what your real intentions are in writing to me and it will certainly take me some time to respond, but a couple of things are now becoming much clearer. Barbara wasn’t in trouble, not back then and not now. I’d imagine you are in trouble though right now … those are the spirits YOU called upon. Back then I sent a hoax email to you with my honest opinion disguised as a message from Anonymous …
 
Liam: This is not fair to me or my wife but more importantly, it is unfair to you and your beautiful children.
 
Keith: Asking me for fairness in your position is a very bold thing to do, don’t you think? You promised my wife love, affection respect and all that goes with it … The cheek of contacting me because you can’t cope with the woman you hit on is totally beyond my understanding … You are a grown man, wheelchair or not, you don’t want pity because you are disabled right? From a present perspective it seems I was right from the beginning.
 
Liam: Barbara will always be a friend of mine as long as she wants things that way.
 

Keith: She’s never been a real friend of yours, because you don’t know her one bit. All you know is an image of her, one she presented to you, a woman you wanted to know. You took full advantage of her respect, awe almost for you as the author of a book she had read when she was in dire straits, after her abuse. She is a victim, a survivor of sexual abuse and you knew that all along. Your behaviour as a victim yourself is far off any radar, certainly mine, in some respects criminal if you ask me …

Liam: I’ve never given out my address to Barbara or anyone else and yet she found me .. I apologise once again for bothering you.

Keith: Don’t apologise, do it the right way. I consider this a very patronising way of telling me what I already know. I knew you weren’t the man you pretended to be. You were looking for pics as w*** material, for some thrills in your dull life of an aging man, most of the time glued to your computer. You should have made that clear before you called the lioness in … My wife is passionate, intelligent and utterly stubborn, that makes her attractive. I’m the man to be with such a woman, because I am a man who takes responsibility for his actions. Here’s my advice to you … Honour your wife, pay your bills and do not smoke another mans pipe! If you want an outside f*** go to somone who is single.
 
Liam: This is a situation I felt you should know about and perhaps protect your family as well as mine.
 
Keith: Once again: you have brought all this on yourself, deal with it. I will take care of my family my way, what you do with yours is not my concern. You have been playing cruel games with a bored lonesome woman who believed in you. I could tell by her moods what was going on between you and her. I know her and you don’t and that is why you are in trouble now. I am dealing with things I’ve made my peace and I enjoy my life with my wife and children. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Please do not respond, just don’t. I know you feel you should have the last word, you’re not happy otherwise, just resist the urge!