Undeniable

” Attack is the best form of defence” it must seem to Liam … To cast doubt on the women’s credibility in order to retain his (as yet) unblemished character, is just another example of his lack of empathy, his total disregard for the hurt he has caused, not only to the women he deceived, but also to his own family and friends …

Below are clips from his emails … Clearly he has been the instigator and not the recipient … but thats Liam … always the victim …

I’m so glad you liked the picture but very disappointed that you didn’t trust me.  Now that you seem to trust me you might get one or two other ones.  Pictures and emails that pass between us remain with you.  Whereas you’re computer is shared mine is not, nobody has access to any of my computers except time and that’s how it will stay.  I use this gmail account specially for you and me.

You’ve got to learn to trust and to write as much as you want to write, never holding back.NOBODY SEES WHAT YOU WRITE EXCEPT ME.  REMEMBER THAT AND FEEL SAAFE. You might also consider opening a gmail account.  Just log on to www.gmail.com and click on ‘create an account’  Just a thoughts.

You accused me of talking to someone else while talking to you.  You’ve a habit of jumping to conclusions and it’s very dangerous.

 I’d like you to feel that you can talk to me about anything and trust me to hold it in my own heart.

Explaining yourself more clearly is a blessing and an enhancement to our relationship.  Let’s keep it that way.

Keep telling it like it was, like it is and invest in a webcam, a half decent one wouldn’t cost more than a few pounds. I love to share with you, anything goes and we have to learn not to hold back from saying what it is we want to say or what we feel.

It’s safe to say that we all need constancy in our lives but we don’t get it.  Before we know it, our lives are going down the toilet and we hang on with people who really couldn’t give a proverbial shit about our past. As for being grateful….the day I start being grateful is the day I’ll die.  There is nothing I have to be grateful.

You must know that there is nothing I wouldn’t talk to you about and neither is their anything I wouldn’t share with you.  We can talk as much as your comfortable with. Chatting to you last night was just very special. Like you I didn’t want it to end but of course it had to. I can’t wait for time and space for us to be together – nobody in the way. I never want us to end Ever. Feel it and let it take you to another level.  You’re special.

This has been a very special evening. I won’t forget it.

 

 

The meanest thing

 

I remember very little of that day, nearly nine months ago, when I received, what would be, the last email Liam would ever send me … It was July 22nd 2013. Following that, there was a DM on the 23rd and another on the 24th, neither of which I responded to …

Days earlier we’d had a disagreement about something he dismissed as ” not even worth discussing”, but to me, it was not something I felt able to overlook. In every conversation following that, I was giving out to him, and as ever he lost his temper with me. Never one to be told anything, he proceeded to give me the silent treatment, and stubborn as a mule, I vowed to have no further contact with him …

The email, to be honest, didn’t seem like a Goodbye at the time, but on reflection I suppose it was …

Jo

I will contact you when I am better. I might have to go into hospital.

Liam  ( no kisses)

P.S Don’t email me as my email might be opened by my sons or my wife.

Since receiving that, I never contacted him again …

I set up a new Twitter account, it seemed to help. I wrote as I would in a diary, never once thinking anyone would be reading, but just feeling the need to vent … Three days later I received a message from a man suggesting I read tweets from a woman who had also been affected by Liam … How I pored over her tweets ( which took a long, long time!)  I honestly never doubted her for a minute …

I still beat myself up for not contacting her at the time, but she seemed somehow out of my league … feisty, self-assured and extremely confident … all the things that I was not … However, I’m happy to say we are now in touch, and have been for some time. We have not held back in discussing aspects of our “relationships” with Liam, which at one time would have been unthinkable …

My tweets, which were somewhat pathetic, were merely reflecting on the sadness I was feeling … What hurt me most, without a doubt was the fact I was never exclusive. The realisation his words had been meaningless hit hard as it sank in it had all been a cruel and sick game …

Thirteen days after the email, a woman tweeted me, she said she believed she knew the man I had been describing, and she also had been in a relationship with him … I was unconvinced but agreed to message with her … She not only typed his name but also “shared” with me instances that led me to believe she was indeed another of Liam’s ladies …

However, I was overlooking that someone other than one of his ladies, could so eloquently describe, not only the content of his emails, but also the topics of conversations on chat programs … I remember at one point remarking to “her” that we were swapping one addiction for another … and speaking to eachother as much as we had both spoken to Liam … How these words would come back to haunt me … I believe Liam came back to stalk me for a second time …

To compromise and stalk vulnerable women is truly shocking, but to come back and pretend, for three months to pretend to be one of his own victims is surely the sickest thing ever … or should I say the meanest ….

Liam’s chickens come home to roost.

While Liam continues to drown in self-pity, I can only watch … emotionless … How utterly predictable that his demeanour should switch from that of being distinctively threatening, to seemingly remorseful and humble, and all in the space of only a few days …

No longer the oh so charming sweet man we once knew, who used his attractive and engaging personality to impress, and manipulate vulnerable women … A man who continually lied that he was being verbally and physically abused by his wife for no other reason than to gain sympathy. To deceive, influence and control compassionate women into loving him with an intention only to satisfy his sick and twisted fantasies.

Reading his words, which as yet, make no mention of me, I can’t help but suppress a slight giggle … Liam’s chickens have finally come home to roost …

He would be mortified that his public image has been shattered, that all his sycophants are no longer in tow, and no one has the slightest interest in anything he has to say … But on the bright side, no doubt now, he has all the “space” he could wish for …

“What I can’t understand is how cruel you could be,” he whines, and this coming from a man who can be credited with completely destroying one marriage and trying his uttmost to destroy another … “Why should my family and friends be hurt because I was the cause of hurt to you?” he adds, and I just sigh …was it not him that brought his personal life into our conversations?

When will he realise its his actions that have caused so much devastation? Not only to his family and friends but also to ours, who have had to pick up the pieces in the aftermath of his cruel games.

I would perhaps have been slightly more sympathetic had it not been for the venomous emails that have been forwarded to me. Only two weeks ago he menacingly threatened to write a book, with an innuendo that the women will be included … “The work of reality is well underway with characters you might well recognise” he says, what an absolutely pathetic creature he is, I think, as I read on … “Life goes on and I’ll go on to do the things I said I’d do”, he adds as if he thinks anyone would care …

“I did momentarily go back on Twitter and have now closed the account again.” LIES.

My husband, who understandably is still unable to forgive me, would never, discuss with anyone, things that should remain between a husband and wife. Liam however, not only betrayed us, but also those closest to him. He only has himself to blame …

Pathological Liar.

After Liam’s abrupt departure my my life last summer, my first thought was that I had inadvertently said something that riled him … Every day it seemed, there was a disagreement … a misunderstanding. I was treated to the silent treatment much more frequently, which only served to reinforce my firm belief that he was talking to another woman …

Approximately two weeks before the final email, I received a very disturbing message from him. He was very ill, he said, as someone was out to “destroy” him. “I’m not a bad person”, he said, ( a line I’d heard so many times before), more to convince himself, I thought, than me …

He wrote many things he hoped would pull at my heartstrings but by that time my memories of being happy with him were fading fast … No longer able to manipulate or control me, still, he kept me on the back burner, remembering my devotion to him and believing I could still in some way be useful to him …

The email, which not only smacked of self-pity, included several very derogatory comments about the woman concerned, in what I can only think was an attempt to make me believe she was not credible …

It seemed I had been there before … and I was such an avid listener … The tales of his wife abusing him verbally and physically immediately sprung to mind … and my earlier thoughts he was suffering from a personality disorder, had never really gone away …

So my first reaction was not to reply to him, but to find out just what the Hell was going on … I went straight to Twitter, but he had already deleted, however I didn’t have to wait long for him to return … There seems to be a pattern with him, he deletes, he reactivates, he creates fake accounts so he can monitor what is said about him …

During one of these reactivation periods I pinpointed the lady I believed he was referring to. I read her tweets and saw nothing that made me think she would have any reason to lie about him. I have since been proved right.

I smile at my niavety back then, when I believed there was only one other woman involved … On October 30th 2013 Liam admitted there were two … He said, ” There were only two women, NOT SEVEN” and on March 19th 2014 he seems to have recalled another … so now it appears he lied … But we all know there were many many more …

His constant misuse of the word destroy continues to anger me … has he any concept of the damage HE has done? To so many? I would suggest his demons will only leave him when HE accepts responsibility for HIS actions

Unrepentant.

Reading through an email forwarded to me by one of Liam’s ladies, ( who he disparagingly refers to as “wimmin”) for a split second I almost felt sorry for him … But then I remember that time, almost a year ago now, when he destroyed, ( he loves that word ) my marriage beyond repair … To this day he is blissfully unaware of how my life has changed as a result of knowing him …

And now I am reading of another woman’s heartache … “Should I reply to him?” she asks me, and I want to scream … no, he didn’t love you … but she says ” You don’t understand … ” and I think Yes I do …I do so well…

Liam’s words, ( why am I not surprised? ) show not a shred of remorse or even regret at the hurt and devastation he has caused not only to the women concerned, but also the immediate families of those who he played his cruel games with. He abused his position of trust by hitting on vulnerable and compassionate women who contacted him with no other agenda than to empathise, with the suffering he had endured as a child.

And he dares to talk of trust. Trust to Liam means keeping quiet, keeping his secrets. Many women duped by him would feel in some way foolish, to have been taken in so completely, to have been charmed so easily …

This man is a first class manipulator. For myself it was the power of his words that drew me to him like an emotional magnet. He triggered memories, situations and concepts, his words were so reassuring, calm even … and little by little I became completely submissive …

For a long time Liam has insisted there were only two women he has been inappropriate with but in the last few weeks it seems, he has changed that to three, does he honestly believe the others have simply vanished? There are many women who have contacted not only myself, but others affected by him, and it is clear his words were not limited to ourselves …

There is something distinctively ironic about being unceremoniously dumped by a person you never wanted romantically in the first place. I would imagine a typical reaction would be to lock the whole unfortunate episode in the back of ones mind and obviously a lot did … until they realised they were not the only ones …

Consequences.

 

While I am not without sympathy, or should I say empathy, for Liam’s wife family and friends, I can’t help but think its best they know how it really was …

For myself it was a brief email expressing empathy after reading his book ( I’ve since heard other women also made contact this way) and in no time at all he was clinging to me like a leech … He emailed and DM’d me constantly … I was happy, flattered even he wanted me to be his friend but all too soon it seemed, he wanted to take things to another level …

I’m not even sure myself how the conversations progressed from seemingly mutual respect to him flirting outrageously with me in a way best described as persistant. Every day it seemed he upped the stakes, in the space of two weeks I had gone from being his best friend and only confidante to the woman he loved, and by week three he spoke of making me pregnant …

Being in a loveless but comfortable marriage, I can only think subconsciously I yearned for a knight in shining armour to whisk me away … to make me feel alive again … and how he romanced me with poetry love songs and endless promises …

I can only surmise Liam feels it acceptable to hit on vulnerable women and use them as sexual playthings after professing his undying love for them. For a man who claims to not want pity I would have to question his motives in telling ALL the women he entered into online relationships with, he was frequently abused, both verbally and psysically by his wife on a regular basis.

And now he whines about the people who have departed from his life, as though he is the victim of some malicious witch-hunt, as though various women would for some obscure reason pick him randomly to berate … I mean please …

I wonder, does he really think he still has the ability to make any of us feel sympathy for him? I’ve seen much of what he has written over the last few months and never, has he enquired as to the welfare of the women he so heartlessly used and made false promises to … As ever he continues to play the victim and says he’s not sorry for himself …

Never one to be afraid to use the emotional blackmail card, not only does he accuse the women of giving HIM stress, he lists medical facts that worsen his illness … I would politely suggest he abandons his plans to return to Twitter as like a red rag to a bull, the women would feel it their duty to warn other women in danger of falling for Liam’s charms the extent of his grooming and manipulation skills …

Having a Father who was thoroughly decent hard-working and respectable I’ve no concept of how Liam’s children would react to the revelations of their Father’s inappropriate behaviour with women online. I feel shock would be a somewhat understatement, and to betray their Mother in such a public way must at the very least be unforgivable.

However, they were not the only ones to suffer the repercussions of Liam’s actions …

No Remorse.

I’d dared to hope briefly, that Liam had learned from his mistakes, and was,at the very least, laying low … But like a Jack In The Box he continues to spring back … as startling and menacing as ever …
 
Seemingly undaunted by the revelations of his inappropriate behaviour by women unfortunate, or should I say vulnerable enough to be taken in by his lies, he continues to insist that HE is the victim … As though it was HE who was persued relentlessly, and HE who was subjected to unrequited declarations of love …
 
This man is a con artist, one who will lure a woman with endless compliments and constant flattery. His conversation at first, somewhat light and intriguing is merely a taster. His intention is to ensnare, entrap groom and manipulative the object of his desire into having online sex with him.
 
All too soon it starts becoming alarmingly personal … you are amazing … beautiful … I think of you constantly … I want to be with you … I hope you thought of me first thing, I did of you … and finally … would it be okay to exchange emails … ?
 
At some point you are overwhelmed by the feelings you’ve not had for so long, he makes you feel alive, young and desirable … you find yourself longing for his emails, his texts, you daydream you are in a relationship with him …
 
And now you are emailing eachother daily … you find yourself typing your whole life to him and he has all the time in the world for you and you stop typing to thank him for listening, he encourages you to keep typing, assures you you wants you to continue … I have my arm around you, he says and on you go telling him things that you trust him with …
 
And then the chat programs … “Do you ever use any of the chat programs, like Skype Yahoo or MSN? Just curious. It would be wonderful to have the privacy and dare I say the intimacy of being able to chat this way.” And when you say no he oh so kindly offers to help you install them …
 
Liam is a sexual predator, his only agenda on social networking sites is to gain sympathy, (he even believes his own lies) and lure compassionate women to love him by playing cruel games. His ultimate goal is that the women not only send naked images of themselves to him … but that they perform on Skype for his pleasure … a sick and twisted individual …